
GCSE short course students have been looking at marriage. They were asked to think about their own beliefs concerning marriage. Fatima from Year 10 came up with this excellent answer. Also special thanks to Miss Madden for sharing one of her wedding photos (she got married in the summer to Phil).
My View on Marriage by Fatima.
Personally, I have always believed that marriage is a wonderful process. My ethnicity and in particular, my religious upbringing have influenced me and what my religion teaches about marriage is beautiful. I am a Muslim and Islam says that marriage is not only a union between two people, but between two families. Marriage is described as an “institution” that provides a solid foundation for happy and strong relationship. Islam also states that both partners are equal and marriage should not trap women.
I believe that marriage creates the stability that is needed for a strong family unit. I think that it creates a lot of security: ending a marriage is more time consuming because of the divorce procedures. Financially, marriage is more durable because both partners can support each other. For example, single mothers may struggle to raise children and work on their own.
Marriage can bring out the best in someone. Throughout the course of marriage a person may become more responsible and mature as he or has to deal with dilemmas such as births, financial issues and health related problems. I think that these dilemmas can help both partners to work together and therefore marriage encourages teamwork. Some situations can not be helped by either partner and often in these situations a person may have to fulfil their spouse’s emotional needs. This may increase the person’s emotional intelligence.
I believe that growing old with same person can leave you with great memories and a lot of happiness. There will always be someone with you in your old age.
On the other hand, it is often argued that marriage can trap a person in a loveless marriage because of their responsibilities towards their children and their home. Feminists may say that marriage takes away the identity of a woman as well as her freedom and independence.
Sometimes, one spouse may physically and mentally abuse the other and get away with it because of the difficulty of escaping marriage. The legal system may aid abusive spouses because of the marriage status. For example, if a man hit a woman on the street, he would probably be arrested and accused of physical assault. However, a man may be able to escape the law if he assaulted his wife. There have been cases in the past in which people who killed their spouse have walked freely out of court.
Some people do not believe in marriage because of the commitment it involves. For example, the vows that Christian couples take include staying with someone through “sickness and health.” Many modernists believe that they only live once and that they should satisfy themselves and seek personal happiness.